Unsmooth.... but not at all.. :)

Many unsmooth events had ruined my life recently. I found myself so helpless in many situations that just cannot move myself on. Everything seems stucked; the feeling of listlessness, struggling for something, desperate, disappointment lingering my days. What happen to me? Whats wrong i done? Why God wanna treat me in this way? Wherever i go, there is stress. Be it in the office or at home. I just wanna get rid of it but apparently I cant. No matter how I'm trying to avoid sth unsmooth, I will still encounter them. It was like pre-determined. It was a situation that things cannot be done smoothly, ppl deem unlike me. I did suspect myself in the stake of depression.Neverheless... I clearly know that, it is just the down fall in my life, an opportunity for me to grow stronger and mature.

I did cry, alomost every night, but .. I know this is not the only way I should go through, I should be stun and face the problem.. I know.. just sometimes cannot digest those negative thinking quickly.. maybe it is my occupational diseases that always wanna find out every answer for problem which i cant understand. Communication is really crucial.. when there is a miss communication without being cured, it triggers to more misunderstanding and alienation among families and freinds.. i shouldnt let it happens coz if a lawyer who cant manage his own family relationship; how ppl could expect him or her to settle others dispute? This will be a big disaster. I hope i will nvr be the one.

Well... I just been thru the long prepared CE with the client. Yeo wanted me to start interview. I start with a short breifing about the area that will ask, then only proceed to the question. I felt apprecited and thankful to Yeo for this opportunity as i really learn a lot. It was just like a small practical tutorial ti train my CE skills. After I've finished my questions, Yeo start pointed out my weakness. Unfortunately, I still not able to acheive the answer as expected and I do not think my performance considered as standard or did impress him. Apparently, I'm lacking of tracing skills.

Yeo claimed that my questioning skill were too direct that allowing witness to circumvent my questions easily. To acheive the purpose, I should first ask them some relevant matters which did not directly revealed my intention to acheive the answer i want from them. I should instead lead them by a series of questions that make them bound to admit sth in the last question.

eg: For them to admit a clause in an agreement

Scope of the agreement -->purpose of the agreement--> undertaking between the party-->effect of the disputed clause--> performance of the clause--> fulfilment of the clause--> fact--> admission

This is the way of luring one into a trap and prove ur case. However, I think that this approach was quite time consuming, thus i decided to modify it abit for the better approaches i.e. Luring but directly, striking the goal shortly.

I like Yeo way of teaching very much. 1. He did not waste his time to only teach me, whereas, he save times to entertain his client while showed me an actual and effective way of CE by questioning the client personaly then listen to his way of questioning the client followed by my turn to questioning him while letting client to learn the proper ways of answering.At that moment, I felt I'm a fortunate pupil who can learn CE in this way. Yet, I'm greedy, I hope I could have more opportunities to learn like this. Frankly, I'm quite satisfy my performance as I keep inspiring myself to talk like a professional, yet I did. The whole conversation was smooth although not really acheive the answers from client. However, atleast I manage to get client contradict himself by 3 questions and manage to use the similar approach of Yeo to show a demo for client by CE Yeo.

Although I never think that Yeo will satify my performance, yet I wont give myself any pressures more as i've made all endeavors to do the best and i should admit my limited ability then improve myself, I mean it.

Always bear in mind that when there is a room for improvement, never give urself up and tell urself that you can do it!!